We all have that one friend who is just so perfect. They’re attractive, funny and they always seem to be there for you when you need them most. It’s easy to get into a “friends with benefits” relationship with this person because they are such a great catch and we know that no other girl (or guy) will ever measure up. When it comes time to take things further though, the stakes feel higher than ever before. What do I say? How do I start? What if she doesn’t like me back? These are just some of the thoughts that may go through your head as you try to work up the nerve to ask your friend out for an official date!
What are the signs you can turn friends with benefits into a real relationship?
There are many signals that can indicate to a person whether the other is interested in pursuing a relationship. It’s important to note, however, that there can be different reasons why someone might give these signs so not every one of them necessarily means “yes.”
Some people have an obvious physical reaction when they see you like laughing, smiling or blushing.
Some people may start spending more time with you away from the bedroom, invite you to social events and even talk about their future plans for both of your lives together.
Others might be less obvious but still offer a clue: They can make small comments teasingly joking that they want something else out of the relationship.
Now that you’re seeing the signs, which means you sense that you’ve got a connection here, and neither of you wants to jeopardize it. This could also mean you can turn the friends with benefits situation into a real thing if you play the card right.
What are the steps to turn friends with benefits into a relationship?
Step 1: Be honest
The first step is to be honest. Both parties are going in with the intention of being friends, fuck buddy and nothing more, so it’s important that you’re upfront about how things will work out when they start getting a bit too close for comfort. If one person wants something more than just sex while the other doesn’t then there’s you might get hurt. Better be honest with your feelings.
Step 2: Stay available
If you’re going to be friends with benefits and then one day become a couple, it’s important that both people are available at the same time. This applies not just for weekdays but weekends too: no excuses!
Step 3: Wait until it happens naturally
If you raise the issue of making your relationship a Relationship before your friend is ready, they might feel pressurised into making a decision that is not necessarily what they want. So take your time and enjoy the present.
Step 4: Date for a little while before becoming official
It’s important to see how someone operates as just friends first because it will make you realise if their personality or behaviour changes when there is sexual contact.