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How to Get Over a Breakup: Tips for Healing

Breakups are never easy, it can feel like you are going through the five stages of grief all at once: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance, but they don’t have to be the end of the world either.

There’s no way to tell you exactly how long it will take for you to get over a breakup, as every person heals at different rates.  But there are some things you can do in order to start on your road towards healing.  This article is going to give you some tips that will help with your recovery process and hopefully make it easier for you so that one day soon, your heartbreak becomes just a distant memory.

  • Find someone who understands what it feels like for their heartbreak because they have experienced something similar.

This human connection may provide comfort when nobody else seems supportive or understanding.  One person’s relationship didn’t work out, but another did; don’t compare yourself with others, even though we want validation from them sometimes (or often).  We each got our own way on life journeys which means there is no need for comparison and don’t take other people’s journeys as your own.

  • Acknowledge the pain and don’t try to suppress it because that will make things worse in the long run.   

It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or lost for a while – these are natural human reactions when something traumatic happens like a breakup.  You can have a support network to help you through this.

  • Look at the breakup from a different perspective.  

If you’re blaming yourself for what happened, it might be time to take a step back and look where your partner played their role in things. It’s important that you don’t hold on to any regret or bitterness if you want to get over this breakup quickly. You’ll have more peace of mind and be able to move on.

  • Don’t make any rush decisions. 

The temptation to change your social media account’s status from single to in a relationship is going to be strong, but don’t give in to it just yet. You might think you’re over the person and ready for someone new, but deep down inside you will still feel like there’s something missing. It might still feel like you’re settling for something that isn’t the right fit, and using your new partner to fill a void left by an old one doesn’t make it more likely that you’ll get over your past breakup.

  • Try to have a routine and stick with it because that will give you a sense of stability in an otherwise chaotic life.  

You can try to go for long walks, do yoga or meditate – these are all healthy ways to spend time while also taking care of yourself individually. Take care of yourself by getting enough sleep, eating right, and exercising regularly.  It’s also important that you find something new to focus your energy on – whether it’s a hobby or volunteering with an organization in your community (this will help you grow closer to others).

  • Visit your friends and family regularly because being around people that know you will help you to feel fulfilled.  

And while it’s important for us as human beings to be alone, we also need companionship in order to heal from a breakup. So try not to isolate yourself too much – reach out even if it’s just sending an email or looking up their Instagram account.

  • Journaling is a great way to keep your thoughts organized and in order

Think about what you want from the future, but don’t be afraid of dwelling on past mistakes either – it’s important for self-awareness. You can get through this with time and patience, so have hope as well.

The most important thing to remember when you are going through a breakup is that it’s okay.  You aren’t the first person or last who will have their heart broken and, if your breakup was amicable, there may be hope for reconciliation in the future.  There really isn’t anything wrong with feeling down after a breakup because this means that you cared about someone deeply enough to feel hurt by them leaving.  It’s normal to want some time alone and try new things, so don’t beat yourself up too much about these feelings; they’re just part of moving on from a past relationship.  Remember to take one day at a time until you start feeling like your old self again.